Look it up: racial shame, racial hatred, racial bias, racial stereotyping, racial abuse.
There are many things that one has to suffer when living in the lands of a majority that seeks to suppress you. You grow tired and weary of the eye rolls and people saying you're playing the victim.
Privilege is a priceless power that can be used and abused, even if the persons not consciously aware of it.
I always say to those who ask about being black, that maybe a trip to Asia or Africa will help them experience the 'social construct' of race for the first time. As they look different maybe they'll be treated different nonetheless.